Learning whats Important

As all marriage and family experts say, your marriage should always come first before kids, jobs, family, etc.  My mind says, but the kids need their every little need taken care of??  I have to get work done so we can survive? My kids are so easy to like and love daily,  As for the hubby, well, there are days where neither of us are very likeable.  But how do I handle it when me and my hubby have a scuffle, and when me and my 3 year old do.
John makes me mad: Silent treatment, saying things that I will need to go to confession for later, and just am overall not making the situation better with my attitude.
3 year old makes me mad: timeout, quick im sorry from him, and hugs.  and he just dumped an entire bottle of seasoning on the floor after I have told him 10 thousand times to stay out of the pantry. 
Ok, now I know these are on different levels, and the 3 year old didnt mean to make me mad, but most of the time, the hubby doesnt mean to either. 
Perspective?  I think I need some some days. Is there any point in making my husbands life miserable, just because he made a mistake?  Dont I make mistakes? All the time, and I am called to make my home a place of peace.  My mood more than anyone sets the entire tone for the attitude in the house.  Why dont I act in a way that brings life, instead of being self centered and mean, just to make a point?  Im hurting my own soul, my kids by not being genuine, and not being a very good example what it means to love.

So my new resolution - to be easier on my husband. The best thing I can give to my kids, is a strong, loving marriage, where they feel secure about Mommy and Daddy.  tho there is always room for improvement, and we get into the routine of life and forget whats important, things are pretty good between us most days.  But really, is there anything gained by being in a horrible mood.  No, but i need to see we are both tired, exhausted, stressed, and feeling overwhelmed most days.  Not just me.  

Kink in the Plan

So, every Wednesday our local Kroger puts out their sales for the week.  Like a good little money saving wife, I try and match up sales with coupons, find the meats that are cheapest and make meals around those, and decide on which juice boxes will be cheapest.  Everything going great, then BAM, the many I married who usually eats anything he wants all the time, including jars of cheese dip and blocks of cheese for a snack decides to do the Biggest Loser challenge at work.

Kink in my plan

Used to cooking, rice & gravy, steak, potatoes, pork chops and crawfish fettucini, have now switched to:

Salmon steak with no olive oil or butter, just seasonings
wheat pasta
 brown rice
reduced fat everything
no bread
salad that is bigger than everything else combined, with low fat salad spritzer dressing

ok, so as i am supporting my husband on this venture to lose weight, without loosing my own sanity and maintaining calories for nursing, i just decided to sneak cheese and crackers and other yummy snacks before the hubby gets home.  (I have about 20 minutes from when I get home)  So as i am stuffing my face, cheers to all of you that eat healthy on a regular basis.  And if you have any good recipes for me PLEASE SHARE! 

Love, Liz